Shelter from the Storm: Don’t Play Games with Your House

American dream or not, the games you may have once played with financing your home are not available for the vast majority of homeowners. And there is no doubt that this a good thing, a lesson learned that was far too painful but often, those tales are. But there is another game afoot in the world of mortgages, even as the largest lenders pull the plug on the process: the reverse mortgage.

Most of us don’t envy those who are toying with this option. We know two things about these folks: one they own quite a bit of their house, referred to as equity and two, these homes are owned by cash-strapped people older than 62.

The reverse mortgage is a rather simple product with relatively simple goals. Because those who are considering this option are often older and in possession of much of the house they live in. This pool of cash is a very tempting option to a fixed income or one where retirement savings no longer is able to keep up with the cost of living. There are a variety of reasons they may need to tap this cash in their homes from medical bills to simply poor money management.

So the concept of tapping some of that equity is quite appealing. A reverse mortgage essentially gives you the money that your house is worth. Ron Lieber recently visited this topic in the New York Times explaining “reverse mortgages begin with a lender that is willing to pay you instead of you paying the bank. How much you get depends on your age, prevailing interest rates and the amount of equity you have in your home. The payout may also depend on whether you choose a lump sum, a line of credit, a regular payment for as long as you live or a regular payment for some fixed number of years.”

The problem is getting a lender to do that. Many of the biggest banks have pulled away from offering the product, not because they don’t think it is a good idea. But because those they lend the money to tend to fall behind on key elements of the loan agreement: paying taxes and keeping the house in sale-able condition. Aside from a check with the feds, there is no credit check on the applicants.

So banks, seeing the issue of foreclosing on granny because she opted for the lump sum payout and failed to keep current on those obligations have decided the bad PR will come with too steep a price. So enter the second and third tier lenders who will, without a doubt fill the void.

This could create several issues. The first would be fewer loans or on the flip side, loans that revert back to why this type of mortgage got its bad rep in the first place. Fees will be higher in a space with fewer competitors. Elderly will sign more complicated documents that will force them to maintain a fund for emergencies – which on the surface isn’t a bad thing but could turn turn out to require higher funding balances than needed, leaving the reverse mortgager with less cash for the effort.

Another issue might be in how your heirs feel about the whole process. Often, parents,who may have mentored their children on the subject of money and financial prudence and who now find their finances in need of some review, may not be willing to or may be too embarrassed to ask for help. If there is no dialogue, the whole process might come as a surprise for kids who thought that house would eventually become part of the estate. And once these second and third tier lenders begin the process of foreclosing, it is often too late for the children to step in to help.

There are some key things to consider here. The first is what options do your parents have? Can they downsize? If not, can you talk to them about the options? Often this conversation needs to happen but it also needs to approached with great care and consideration. But once the barrier has been breached, you can move to include yourself in their financial affairs before it is too late.

This is also some tricky water to navigate. But the effort is worthwhile. If they need the money, and many older Americans will, attempt to get them to allow you to help budget the funds. In the future, HUD will probably set rules about creditworthiness and because many older Americans have little or no recent credit history, this might prove an obstacle at a time when they are already facing one too many. Helping them build some creditworthiness will enable them to be in a better position – with your help – to get the best deal possible.

Once you have gained their trust, you can include your input with their financial planners, with their attorneys and possibly with their medical doctors, all of whom may not be able to tell you what their clients or patients are deciding. You can take control of the vital payments that need to be made and keep things in good financial order.

So this summer, take a moment when visiting your parents or grandparents and have the discussion. And while you are at it, consider a plan to pay off your mortgage as well. (You can find recent articles about this topic here.)

Is Owning a Home No Longer Smart Money Management?

Seems that there isn’t a day goes past that I am not asked about the concept of buying a house.  These questions usually come from younger workers who may be barely into their thirties.  And the answer I offer them is not what they want to hear.  In fact, it flies in the face of everything they have ever heard about home buying, much of it now like the retirements of our parents: not something we can count on for us.

So we usually begin with something so basic that it is almost considered a non-subject.

What is an investment?

For years I have focused on a what money can do over the long-term.  I have discussed stocks and bonds and 401(k)s and I have emphasized (repeatedly) that savings in not investing (savings is safe; investing involves risk)  But the idea of what an investment is still presents us with problems.

For instance, we often say we invest in our children. Why? Because we expect what we put in to come out at some other point better, improved, not prone to the same mistakes we have made.  We all know that we should invest in our futures but we can’t even see what the next week will bring.  And the biggest misconception of what an investment is turns out to be a house.

They ask, as if I am tearing down some pillar of knowledge they were genetically born knowing, assuming was correct: Are you saying that house isn’t an investment?

That is exactly what I am saying and you would think that, after we watched the housing crisis drive that point home, it would go without saying.  I bumped into a stat the other day that said 70% of the homeowners in Las Vegas were underwater on their mortgages. nationwide, 25% of mortgages are suffering the same fate with the borrowed money exceeding the worth of the home.  Another sobering statistic: it will take 60 years for the average underwater mortgage to recover to even.

The best way to put this: they are drowning in debt.  Even those with equity are drowning in debt.  How many times have you heard on one of those HGTV shows, as a young couple who wants more room, an office for him, three bathrooms, three bedrooms, room for their animals, plans for a family, tell the young buyers, almost off the cuff: “are you ready to sign your life away?”  And they say yes.

To which the people thinking about the concept of buying respond: But we all have to have someplace to live?

There  is the rub.  To be homeless is to be outdoors, to be without a house you are paying well over forty percent of your income on, each month, before taxes, insurance, upkeep and improvements is not even smart.  Yet we all think that this is what should be done.  Why? Because that’s the way our parents told us it should be done.  More importantly, it is what those folks who know how to invest told us it should be done.

This sort of talk coming from someone who is old enough to be their parent is disconcerting.  The look on their faces ask the next question: So what exactly are you saying?

Consider the fact that a two year old might think that Kindle is your book,  how text messaging was not even around just five years ago, how your missed phone call was recorded on a machine.  (Beyond that, I begin to date myself to a time when phones actually dialed.) We let technology advance in leaps and bounds but we still harbor the same “If I own a house I have arrived at adulthood?” concept of what we should do.

Roger Lowenstein, writing in the New York Times suggested we turn that whole concept on its head and walk away from those debts.  After all, it was the banks who got you into this mess.  They made money cheap, borrowing easy and now they want you to feel morally obligated to maintain the house you couldn’t afford in the first place.

For those who think they need a house, think again and again at how much it is going to cost you?  If you are upside down in your house, a term that refers to having a mortgage that is greater than you’re your house is worth, secure a good rental agreement prior to walking away.  And before you do, exhaust all of the channels with the lender.  And lastly keep in mind, it is more noble to have control of your money and rent than it is to have no money and house you can’t afford.

If you already own a home and are among those who are not underwater, chances are you are still looking to grow your family, which puts you in an interesting position. It is important to consider all of the options.

Perhaps you want to grow your family. Which sounds like a house big enough for two will turn into a small house and that will quickly be seen as a problem.

Even though interest rates are low and housing prices are well off their highs, your income is likely to be lower once you start that family.  Even if one of you doesn’t take off a significant amount of time, the cost of daycare will eat your income just as face as working less and staying home will.

Perhaps, I tell them, they should consider renting or continuing to do so. Buying a house, even with those economic considerations in mind, ties up too much cash (as I mentioned earlier: mortgage, insurance, upkeep, improvements) for too short of a period to be worth the effort or get you the return you desire. Add those costs up and I would be willing to wager you could get quite a lot of house to rent for less monthly. And you stay liquid during the lean years. It is well known that unless you remain in a house for ten-years, you will not see the tax advantages and not recoup the interest payments or closing costs. (Keep in mind, for this concept to work, you must be saving the difference between those costs of owning.)

In the end, most will buy.  In the long-run, they will, even if only in the back of their minds be reminded of the advice they asked for and then ignored.  I’m okay with that.  I bought my home at an usual time, when things were normal.  It was time when if housing prices were low it was because money was too expensive to borrow (my first mortgage was 14%, which 25 years hence is now 4.5%).  The opposite was high house prices and cheap money.

Those days are over.  Now it is low housing prices, cheap money and stringent lending requirements and rules.  And that is not likely to change in the near-term.

If you plan on walking away from your mortgage, you need to consider all of the options.  Approach the bank, attempt to find a buyer and before you miss a payment, secure some sort of rental agreement with a new landlord.  Just keep in mind, no matter what the bank tells you, no matter what the media or the politicians suggest, the weight of this economic recovery in not on your back.  When it comes to trouble like this, act as an agent concerned about your financial well-being; and no one but you.